What? You're Getting Married!?

Probably the ever dreamt of a woman is to find the right one. Of course! Who wouldn't dream of a happy ending? Who wouldn't want their own fairy tale?

My cousin is one of those lucky woman who found her Mr. Right in no long time. She did not search for too long. It just happened! Unplanned and probably unexpected in some ways.

Amazing isn't it? And as her cousin who happens to grew up with her, I should be one of those who will cheer for her and cite my best wishes. I should be one of those who'll be excited and happy for her. Well, I am. I am glad she found the one she'll spend the rest of her life with. I'm glad that she's near to her happily ever after. I am more than thankful that she didn't have to meet a wicked witch in her fairy tale. I am glad for her. . . but you can't blame a cousin to be shocked and be overwhelmed of the news.

It hadn't been more than two years since her prince introduced himself to us. It hadn't been a year when I knew that my dearest cousin had been in a relationship. There hadn't been even a proper admission if they are officially a couple. Then, one night I'll get a news that she's planning to settle down. Who wouldn't think of it as a joke?

As bothered as I became, I didn't let a day or two pass without asking confirmation from her. So I did ask. I must admit that I was half expecting a confirmation from her and at the same time hoping that she'll deny and clarify that the news I've got wasn't true. I didn't exactly know why until I thought of it deeper. So, when she told me that she is definitely getting married, I was dumbfounded! WHAT? You're getting married?

You'd probably think my reaction was OA. But to tell you, I wasn't over-reacting. My reaction was pretty normal. Well at least in my own opinion.As I mentioned, we practically grew up together. She's just three years older than me so obviously our experiences weren't too different. The environment and time we revolve are almost the same. Same school from elementary until college. We introduced each other to our classmates and friends. We share secrets and dreams. We talk about plans.When I say plans, that includes the ideal marrying age and stuffs. I am firm with my idea of marrying at thirty while she said that her marrying age is negotiable at twenty five.

I was preparing myself for the chance that she'll probably settle down at twenty five but it never crossed my mind that she'll get married two years earlier. Yes! She's twenty two. A degree holder with  job and of legal age. What's not to settle? 

So what's my point in her? Well, it's probably to appease myself and to finally accept that plans are plans. we could either strictly follow them or we could also do otherwise.

To my cousin's fiance, please take care of her. Treat her not as a princess but as a queen. Respect her decisions and respect her. Be her best friend at all times. Love her with all the love that God showed. If you cannot do these, please do not pursue the wedding.