COMMITMENT

inspired by the chaos in When It Rains, It pours.

Nothing is perfect. Nobody is perfect. But imperfection should never be an excuse for purposely doing wrong.

Marriage is a sacred thing. The sanctity of marriage is not only until the moment we decided to end it instead, it is for the rest of our lives.

Entering marriage should not only be planned but also be prepared of. It should not only be by mere feelings but by a firm decision.

We cannot blame somebody for committing mistakes because that is normal. We are human beings. We are vulnerable to temptations. But we are also radical beings who are given rationality in order for us to weigh things over. We are given the capabilities to analyze whether it is good or bad.

More than being happy, what we need is tranquility. That inner peace that will make us satisfied of the decisions we made. That inner peace for us to continue living and to continue our lives without anything to hold us back. Without anything that will make us doubt ourselves.

The moment the guy decided to court a girl, he must be willing to commit into a relationship. The other way around, the moment the girl accepts the guy in her life she must also be willing to help strengthen that commitment.

When you are in a relationship (romantic in this case), your focus must not only be personal growth but also your growth as a couple. You must help push each other to become better and not pull each other down.

Being tempted to look for another is forgivable. This phase is the trial and error stage. When one of you is at fault you can both talk about it and decide whether you want to fix the problem, compromise then forget about it and go on together; or talk about it, settle yourselves genuinely and decide to separate ways. Choosing the latter should never be the first option but the last of all last.

When both of you decided to bring your relationship to the next hierarchy which is engagement, this is the moment where you have to ponder things further. You have to think over a million times if you are really decided to make it last. Do not rely on your feelings, let your decision making rule over. this is the perfect time for you to back out if you are doubtful because the next stage is the phase where there is no exit.

When you decided to get married, the your commitment is the vow. Uttering the promise in front of God and His people that you will work together to make it grow. To fight for each other and not with one another. To understand each other at all times even if it is the most impossible thing to do. To love each other despite all the reasons that drags you to give it up. Because nothing can separate one that is bonded in His name.

You cannot just tell your spouse “Let’s end this because I’m tired” or “Let’s call it off because it’s boring” or “let’s end this because you’re unexciting” or whatever possible reason you might give. Because the very moment you opened your mouth to utter your marriage vow is the moment you made your choice never to break the bound of your commitment.

So, before getting into the next big picture. Make sure that you decided basing on your feelings but because it is the choice you made. Your feelings will eventually subside. Your heart will get tired but if you choose it, You will stay firm with your decision.